Imagine that you and your fiancé spend time and money planning your dream honeymoon/vacation. After countless conversations and daydreaming about how you’re going to have the time of your lives, it doesn’t go as planned. Well, that’s just what happened to a newlywed couple. I came across this article about a newlywed couple from Sweden who survived their honeymoon. I know what you’re thinking, isn’t that the goal for everyone/don’t we all survive our honeymoons? Well, yes, but most people’s biggest honeymoon nightmare is rainy weather, not a major snowstorm, a tsunami, 2 earthquakes, catastrophic flooding and a cyclone! Can you imagine it? You set off on what you think will be the trip of a lifetime (a 4 month long honeymoon) with your love to Germany, Bali, Australia, New Zealand, and Japan only to be hit with just about every natural disaster known to man! YIKES!!!
While a bad trip is hardly the worst thing that can happen in life, it made me think about marriage and how my husband and I, like all brides and grooms dreamed that married life would be perfect. There’s NO WAY that Swedish newlywed couple thought their honeymoon would be anything less than blissful! Newlyweds can be naïve or as I like to put it…overly optimistic! There’s nothing wrong with a positive attitude or outlook on life; however, you want to prepare yourselves for when something in your life doesn’t turn out as planned. If not, any negative situation will feel overwhelming like a ton of bricks on you and/or your marriage.
We all go through things in our lives that are certainly not what we planned or hoped, but we make it through and often times come out on the other side stronger, more passionate and better people. That happens in all marriages too! I’m sure you know at least 1 couple and have heard unpleasant stories about something that happened in their marriage or to someone they know (i.e. constant fighting, gambling, debt, illness, drug/alcohol problems, infidelity, or divorce).
It’s a known (and unfortunate) fact that not all marriages last forever, but that doesn’t mean that you and your spouse won’t have a long, happy and healthy marriage. You will have to work for it, letting your spouse know each and every day that he/she means the world to you (most importantly…be thankful for the little things). In our marriage vows we state that we will love one another “in good times and in bad,” so just remember that always. However horrible the bad times may be (whether it’s a bad honeymoon, an illness, loss of job, etc.) think about what brought you together in the first place and remind yourself of the love you shared on your wedding day. Reminiscing about the days you had butterflies in your stomach just being around each other and how far you’ve come will help you get through anything.
Do you have a nightmare honeymoon story…Or a tough marriage moment? How did you make it through? Share your thoughts with us…