New York Maiden to Middle Name Change

New York Bride Maiden To Middle Name ChangeNewlywed in New York? State laws were not allowing brides to take their maiden names as their middle names, which caused all kinds of complications and many brides resorted to going through the lengthy and expensive legal name change process. Great news! MissNowMrs.com figured out a way to satisfy the New York points of identity requirements so you CAN change your maiden name to your middle name. Here’s the scoop:

To change your middle name to your maiden name based on marriage, you will need to file your name-change forms in a specific order. File your Social Security form and your U.S. Passport forms first. Next, wait to receive both of those new documents back in your new name. Then you can go to the New York DMV and file for your new driver’s license. Your Social Security card and U.S. Passport with your new name will serve as the required 6 points of identification…AND since they show your maiden names as your middle name, you won’t have any issues getting your new license to match.

Don’t forget that our easy online name-change service helps you complete all of your name-change forms in ~30 minutes…so you can go from Miss to Mrs. in a matter of minutes and focus on the fun of the holidays as a newlywed!

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  1. Kbm592

    Has anyone actually done this and it worked? I am currently in the process and need to know this will satisfy the requirements?

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    1. Danielle Tate

      We had 15 brides “test” out our solution before we blogged about it and incorporated it into our instructions.

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  2. M.H.

    Should we do something on the marriage license first? How do we “prove” our new middle name to the SSA/passport office, if the license doesn’t leave us a space to write it?

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    1. Danielle Tate

      Your marriage certificate serves as your legal proof of marriage. There isn’t anything you can do with the certificate (it typically shows your maiden name & your spouse’s name). Changing your middle and last names on your Social Security card and US Passport give you the “points of identity” necessary to change your middle and last names at the NY DMV. :)

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    1. Danielle Tate

      Your marriage license/certificate is your legal proof of marriage, allowing you to change your name. The name on the license/certificate does not dictate your married name…it just shows that you married your spouse! :)

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  3. Annette

    So can I have two middle names? Like mymiddlename mymaidenname. I want to keep both my current middle name and add my maiden name to it.

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    1. Danielle Tate

      You sure can. Just be sure to file your Social Security and US passport forms first and bring your new documents showing your new name when you file for your license.

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  4. Gwen

    I think I am so annoyed. Married and the certificate says my new surname includes my last name.(.ex…maiden name was Smith…husbands name is Stern….so they make my new SURNAME..
    Smith-Stern.) Wanted my middle name to be Smith. To change this looks like a NIGHTMARE OF AMMENDMENTS….So it looks like my last name remains my maiden name for all intensive purposes.

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  5. Danielle

    I attempted to submit my name change form to the Social Security Office in New York today, and was told that I cannot change my middle name to my maiden name without petitioning the court in Albany. I would love to hear what tactic those 15 test brides used!

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    1. Danielle Tate

      We talked with the Social Security Administration and they stated that “Any woman in all 50 states can take her maiden name as her middle name after marriage”. They specifically answered that you could do this in New York specifically.

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  6. Lisa

    My situation: I live in New York. The DMV will not change my license to my desired new full name (first name, middle name, maiden name, marriage name). Changing my SS card to this name was no problem, but the DMV would not even look at my SS card. They only looked at my current license (which has my first name, middle name, maiden name) and my marriage certificate (which of course has my full name and my husband’s full name). All of my proofs of identity need to match, and I do not want the DMV deciding what my name is. Your service sounds great, but being as that the NY DMV did not even want to see my SS card or passport, how will what you are offering work?

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    1. Danielle Tate

      Hi Lisa,

      The NY DMV created the proofs of identity to help prevent identity fraud. We were told if you can show your SS card and US passport in your first, maiden and new last name they would accept that as enough evidence of identity to make the change on your license.

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  7. CK

    Does it make a difference if you mail your social security name change forms vs. appearing in person? I filled out the form indicating I wanted my name to be FIRST MAIDEN HUSBAND’S LAST (with my maiden name as my new middle name). I took the form into the office today, and was told I can’t make my maiden name my middle name. They processed me as FIRST OLDMIDDLE HUSBAND’S LAST. No maiden name anymore. Would I have had better luck if I’d mailed the form? How can it be that some people are having success with this, and others are being told they cannot make their maiden names their middle names? Isn’t there a uniform policy?

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  8. Cindy I.

    I tried doing this change last week and SS (in NY, specifically Bklyn) would not add my maiden name as my middle name. I would like to know who informed you it was possible since I had four different individuals look into it and none would approve the change.

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  9. Lesley

    There is talk of trouble with SS office, but has anyone had success with SS and then had trouble with passport services? It says on the passport service’s website that “As long as the marriage certificate shows your new name as FirstName MaidenName Husband’sLastName, then that is what will be in the passport. If it does not, then the only way to have that name in your passport is to request a court order for a legal name change.”

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  10. jen

    I just started my process today. went to nyc midtown ss office and have a letter saying i applied for a new card as firstname maidenname husbandslastname i will try passport next and report back!!

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  11. Rose

    I just completed this process in NY and I am pleased to say it worked! I went to the SS office in person. The clerk kept asking me if I was sure I wanted to make my maiden name my middle name, after I assured her yes, she changed my name. I then changed my passport….no problem. The NY DMV was the REAL test. When I finally got to the clerk, he had to check with his supervisor. I tried to give him my social security card, but he wouldn’t take it. He said all he needed was my marriage license, and my passport or old drivers license. They told me I could not make this change, because it was against state law. I then brought up the 6 point rule (thanks to this website) and presented them with my ss card. AND IT WORKED! They made the change and I received my new drivers license this week Firstname maidenname marriedname! Thank you so much!!

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  12. Caitlin Kelly

    I also went to the Ss office in midtown Manhattan last week, and was told I need to do a separate legal name change to have my maiden name as my middle name.

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  13. Katie

    I went to the downtown SS office two weeks ago and was able to change my middle name to my maiden. The card was mailed to me and arrived three days later. It was very easy. Now waiting for my passport- fingers crossed that and the license are no problem!

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  14. Whitney

    I’m getting ready to take on this whole process myself. Would it be beneficial to get my passport changed before the SS or vice versa? From what I’ve read you need the passport as proof for the SS, but not the other way around so I’m wondering if that would streamline the process at the SS office. Any thoughts on that? Also I’m doing the FIRST MIDDLE MAIDEN NEWLAST – which technically isn’t “changing” my name. But at the risk of sounding dumb, will that make any difference?

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  15. Wallis

    I also went to the downtown ss office in manhattan and was told I could only change my last name, even though I signed my marriage license with my maiden name as my middle name. I was also told that I need to petition the court for a legal name change if I want my maiden name as my middle name. It appears to be up to the discretion of the clerk whether your middle name will be changed. Very frustrating.

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  16. holly

    I went to social security office in garden city today and changed my maiden name to my middle name easily. I just brought my birth certificate & marriage license and the filled out SS-5 form.

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  17. Mary

    I can echo what Katie just posted – I went to the downtown SS office this morning (the midtown office no longer does name changes) and it was no problem to change my name. It took all of a minute; I couldn’t have been easier. Next step is my passport. I’ll repost if there are any problems.

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  18. SSM

    Brooklyn SS office= no problem, in and out in under an hour, maiden as middle.

    Passport = no problem, showed up in the mail in about 2 weeks.

    Brooklyn DMV on Atlantic= major pain, worse than I remember Manhattan being. Was there just shy of 3 hours and was told they could not do it; I insisted on the 6 point rule and that the Supervisor speak to her superior. Following her phone call, she said they’d try, but that they wouldn’t be able to “if Social Security wouldn’t let them.” Given that my new SS card clearly states my name as first/maiden/married, I am pretty sure it won’t be a problem… fingers crossed!

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  19. cmv

    I only have the enhanced license, no passport, is there any other way to accomplish the 6pts of identification? We are getting our marriage license tomorrow and i really do not want to hyphenate

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  20. Annette

    The ss office in mineola said they won’t even hyphenate my name (I guess changing my middle name is out of the question) because my marriage certificate has my name down as first middle hislast so it’s against the law for them to hyphenate my name. Ill be keeping my own name then because I am not going through any court petitions. Has anyone had this problem?

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  21. Alyssa

    Thanks for the tip, Miss Now Mrs! Had no trouble getting maiden name moved to my middle name at Brooklyn Social Security a few weeks ago and the DMV at Atlantic Center today thanks to the tip to change my passport first. With the 6 points of ID I didn’t even wind up using my marriage license. They took one look at it and handed it back, saying “We only need your IDs then.” The trick I used and seemed to work was to not point it out that it’s an usual change. The guy at the DMV even asked “Is it hard to change your maiden name to your middle name?” I just shrugged and casually said, “Not at all.” HIs response? “Cool. I like it.” Good luck, fellow name changers!

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  22. Q*staR

    This sounds good BUT is it considered a LEGAL name change? I’ve been married a year and a half and changed my name (hyphenated) when we got married. I decided now that I want to change it to maidenmiddle, and have gotten mixed info on how to do it here in NY. I found this blog and was excited b/c I thought I wasn’t gonna be able to do it. Anyway, I read up a little more and realized that if it’s done in this way you described it may not be legal in NY b/c when you get married you choose your new surname and it’s printed on the license. They specifically say you CAN NOT CHANGE YOUR FIRST OR MIDDLE NAME B/C OF MARRIAGE—buttttttttttt you can get a legal name change (for a fee of course) and then everything else after would be the same as you describe (SS, passport, dmv, etc.) What’s crazy is they say if you want to change it after marriage-say remove the hyphen, use your maiden, only husband’s name…-you would have to re-apply for a marriage licensee AND get re-married for it to be legal!!! And of course you must pay for this too…but again they specifically say you can’t change your first or middle b/c of marriage so ladies (NY especially) please do your homework before going through all of the paperwork and waiting and stressing…….good luck to us all ;)

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  23. Q*staR

    P.S.-the catch to making an official name change is that you have to “announce” it in the newspaper…why? I wish I knew!!

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  24. DSH

    Thanks to all of you above who wrote in – your stories and advice really helped! Here’s what I did to change to FIRST, MAIDEN AS MIDDLE, HUSBAND’S LAST in New York and it worked! – I now have a new social security card, passport and driver’s license on the way with all three desired names…Went to one of the social security offices in downtown Manhattan – there were very few people in line at 9:00am on a Friday. Told the clerk what I wanted and, as that’s NOT how it appears on my NY marriage certificate, she initially told me she couldn’t do it. I told her that the people at City Hall told me when I went for my marriage license that I was supposed to make the middle to maiden name change at the social security office. She said “Well, I can do it but you might get asked to change it back later.” I said that was fine with me and she made the change – I’m not sure who would ask me to change it later but I’d worry about that later! The receipt you receive shows your full new desired name and can be used to change your banking stuff, credit cards, etc. in the meantime if you’re anxious to get everything changed over as I was. (Keep a copy of the receipt with you and scan a copy so you can email or upload to a site for any companies – like ConEd – that might request documentation.) My new social security card arrived in the mail after a week or two. Next, sent away for my passport. You just simply fill in the blanks for what you want your name to be in the application. I was nervous to mail it in as opposed to applying in person (particularly because you have to send back your old passport and your marriage license that doesn’t show the name you want) but the process which is supposed to take 4-6 weeks took only 3 weeks – I received my new passport with my desired new name in the mail (expedited delivery for the return as per my request). Lastly, I went to the DMV on Broadway between 33rd and 34th at 9:00am on a Monday and was back out the door after about an hour with my mission accomplished. I gave them my new social security card as well as my new passport and they easily made the change (I was prepared to mention the 6 points rule mentioned in other entries above but they didn’t have any issues). You need to specify if you want your first, middle and last to appear on your license or not. I did but I signed just my first and last as I didn’t want my signature to include all three. I was given my interim license reflecting the change and am awaiting my new permanent license in the mail. All set. Advice – get original copies of your marriage certificate from City Hall if you don’t have a couple already. As you change your name everywhere, you may need to mail an original as proof to a health insurance company, etc. and you don’t want to risk being without one if the one you sent is not returned. Having copies on hand and a scanned version helped save time too. Other note: You have to do things in this order – social security card, passport, driver’s license. (I tried to go to the DMV with just my social security card – prior to receiving my passport – and was told that the DMV follows what the passport office does – if the passport office changes your middle name to your maiden name, the DMV will do the same – and you must have both your SS card and passport in hand for the DMV to help you.) Good luck to all!

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  25. gayle

    One question, one observation. NYC Marriage license application includes the option to change your surname (but not middle name). I want first, MAIDEN, MARRIED, dropping my old middle name. I don’t think I should change my surname as part of the application process if I want to use the process outlined above that starts with social security card. Is this correct?

    Next, there is a currently an open bill pending at the NYS Judiciary called Jillian’s law: S4460-2013 which would make changing your middle name part of the marriage process. Too late for me, but let s hope it works!

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  26. Kiki

    Sadly, this didn’t work for me. The DMV wanted two picture IDs with the maiden name as middle name. I brought my new social security card and my new passport, but they wouldn’t take the SSN card as proof. Going back with my Global Entry photo ID hoping this will suffice as the second proof.

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  27. Tracy

    For those that were successful with changing their name on their SS card & passport – did you mail in the new SS card to get your new passport? Clearly my marriage certificate doesn’t have my desired name but my SS card does (by the way, had no problems with that at the Brooklyn DMV). I can’t find any answers to this question after countless google searches…any thoughts?

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  28. Ann Marie

    I was successful in getting my maiden name as my middle name at the Social Service Admin building in Riverhead, NY (Long Island). I’m going to be submitting my passport application/renewal form this week, so hopefully I’ll know whether that worked in a couple weeks…

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  29. Erica

    I went to the DMV this morning and when I got up to the counter the man said “well the problem here is going to be with your middle name” and my heart sank. Then he said “unless, of course, you have other IDs totaling up to 6 points.” I pulled out my SS card and my passport and he processed it with no problem! Phew!

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  30. Tracy

    just wanted to post an update to my previous post. I just received my passport in my new, desired name (First, Maiden Name, Married Name). All I did was send in a copy of my marriage license and fill out the passport application with my desired name and it apparently was enough! Initially I thought I might have to send in my SS card to prove my name but that’s not the case. Huge relief! Now, off to the DMV…

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  31. Allison

    I had the same issue as many women on here – I went to the SS office and they said that to change my middle name to my maiden name, I need a court order. Did anyone else have to go through this process? If not, how did you get your name changed? I’m really fed up with this process.

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