Newlywed Needs

Looking for name change advice or some tips for newlywed life? The MissNowMrs experts have created state-specific name change articles and checklists for you. We’ve chronicled our recommendations for how to travel while changing your name AND how to handle voting during the transition.

We’ve also compiled our best guidance for how to handle difficult sister in laws, holidays as newlyweds, the ever-annoying baby questions, and much more. Why? Because, while we are name change experts, we’re also newlywed wives, moms, and sisters.

We hope our name change advice articles help smooth your transition to your new name, and a whole new phase of life. Congratulations and best wishes from the entire MissNowMrs team!

Newlywed Communication: 3 Tips for Success

One of the most integral parts of any great marriage is a couple’s ability to communicate effectively with each other and respect each others (often different) opinions. Many newlyweds struggle to find the balance of listening and being heard in the first years of marriage. After all, living with someone and being united with them requires new levels of patience, understanding, and self-control. When a co-worker upsets you, the disagreement is generally superficial, the boss will step in, or you can simply leave to take a breather and have an escape at home. The same is true when arguments arise with friends or extended family members. But, when you argue with your spouse, the rules change, so here are a few things to keep in mind:

Look for Visual Cues – Did you know that more than ninety percent of what you say does not come from your mouth? It has been found that it is the non-verbal actions of a person that provide most of the story. If you are failing to look at your partner when he or she is speaking, then chances are good that you are missing much of what has been said. It is also much easier to misinterpret something that is said if you do not see the non-verbal communications associated with the words.

Actively Listen – In addition to looking at him or her during the conversation, it is very essential to demonstrate that you were, in fact, listening and hearing everything that was said. Common phrases — such as ‘do you know what I mean?’, ‘what do you think?’, ‘am I crazy for feeling that way?’ – should not be ignored. Rather than just nodding your approval of what your partner has said, or starting on a tirade regarding everything you disagree with, be careful to respond meaningfully to those questions. These can be instant diffusers if handled correctly in a heated situation.

Know When to Temporarily End the Conversation – While the old saying ‘never go to bed angry’ still applies, it is unrealistic to believe that every argument throughout the life of your relationship will come to an immediate conclusion. Communication is essential, but sometimes it is just as important to know when to walk away. When tempers are flared to a level that distracts from hearing and understanding what is being said, then it is a good idea to take a moment to breathe. Don’t leave and stay away, but rather, take a moment apart to gather your thoughts, calm your nerves, and begin to think rationally again. At that point, return to your spouse and try to speak at a reasonable volume about what is bothering you.

The communication foundations you lay today will affect your relationship for a lifetime, so take the time to figure out the best ways to discuss highly charged topics and deal with confronting each other in a loving way. It will pay off, I promise! Just reading this blog post is a great step towards continuing your newlywed bliss. What discoveries have you made about communication as a newlywed?

DIY Projects: A Great Way to Keep Your Marriage Healthy

Did you know DIY projects can keep your marriage healthy? There is so much excitement and anticipation leading up to your wedding. After months or years of planning, the wedding and honeymoon seem to fly by and then real life begins. Many newlywed couples begin to miss the “planning” aspect and connectedness of their engagement. Great news…there are tons of projects you can work on together that will not only benefit your relationship; they’ll benefit your surroundings!

Fixer-upper condos or houses aren’t a bad choice for new couples. They can provide the opportunities for collaborative work that will bring many spouses closer together. That being said, there are a couple of warnings that come with doing re-design work.

For couples who often find themselves in a battle for control – for the strong personalities of the world – coming to an agreement over color, pattern, furniture, and accessories can be source of contention. It is important to go into the process with an open mind and the understanding that working together will not necessarily equate to getting everything that you want for the space. A good marriage is founded on compromise, and the blended end achievement may turn out even better than “your idea”.

As long as you can maintain open minds and open lines of communication, it can be a great idea to suggest updating the kitchen, to replacing the old and outdated couch, or re-painting the guest bedroom. Start small and move on to bigger projects as you become more comfortable with the collaboration aspect of your relationship (better to find out you can’t agree on a faucet than you can’t agree on a blue print for an addition).

As you begin your project, ask your spouse small questions to get communication started. For instance, what colors do you see in the room? Do you prefer gold or silver cabinet and drawer pulls? Do you think we should get a Queen or King sized bed for our room?

These starter questions will provide the initial communication, which can then become involved as bigger decisions must be made in order to complete the project. For those who are seriously ambitious and have the abilities, new bathroom construction, building the new deck, or laying to stone at the front entrance can be done on your own. Putting your blood, sweat, and tears into improving your home will make it a more meaningful space and provide you plenty of pleasant memories and possibly a few hysterical stories.

What home improvement projects have you undertaken with your spouse? I remember replacing the 30+ knobs in our kitchen and being tremendously pleased with our teamwork. He removed the old ones and I screwed in the new ones. And, we both loved the updated look they provided!

What DIY projects are you doing to keep your marriage healthy? Please share in a comment!

Avoiding the ‘Comfort Weight’ of Marriage

Have you heard of the comfort weight of marriage? The weight of a wedding ring on your hand is a wonderful and comforting thing. However…post wedding poundage really isn’t either of those things. There are a few things that might be considered stereotypical, but that do tend to be truth when it comes to the wedding and the days thereafter. Brides (and grooms) tend to want to look their best for their big day. So, part of the preparation for the wedding is often the pre-marriage diet/exercise plan (hello gym membership, body pump classes, spinning etc.). Exercise and better eating combine and will usually result in the shedding of unwanted pounds in time for that final dress fitting.

Yet, when the celebration is over, many couples will let go of the healthy pattern that was developed before their vows. In fact, this phenomenon is so common that many people have come to refer to the pounds gained after tying the knot as ‘comfort weight.’

If you want to avoid gaining the post-party pounds or if you are the newlywed who has suddenly found that the jeans from last year don’t fit all that well anymore, then There are a few changes you can make to keep you at a healthy weight and also strengthen the bond of your marriage.

Invest in a Home Gym – If you have the space in your house or apartment, a home gym – even in the simplest of forms – can serve as a great place to remain thin and trim or to return to that status. Plus, having it right there means that you and your hubby can share in the activity together and keep each other on track.

Take a Nightly Stroll – Many couples have a tendency to lose touch of romance after they’ve wed. A great way to keep connected and get the workout you both need, is through an evening walk. After the dinner table has been cleared, the two of you can set off together. For more athletic couples, this can even be transformed into a nightly run.

Couples’ Cooking – Part of the reason that young married couples have a tendency to pack on extra pounds is because the ritual of nightly dinners hasn’t yet been established. Instead, newlyweds will choose to eat out or order in, which usually means higher fat and calories when compared to a homemade meal. Solution: use the evening meal as a bonding time and work together to create something that tastes wonderful and is good for you.

Remember, sharing in the activities that are good for your health will make it easier for the two of you to stay on track and keep off the comfort weight of marriage. It’s fun to challenge each other and keep in shape as a couple…you’ll both be glad you did!

What ways have you and your partner come up with to stay in shape? We’d love for you to share your ideas with us in a comment!

Choosing the Right Dog to Match Your Marriage

Dog in Wedding — Choose you dog in marriage

Okay, so maybe you aren’t quite ready for the responsibility of a newborn in your life, or perhaps you don’t intend to ever have children, but the idea of having a little extra company around the house after marriage can be very appealing for many young couples. In fact, a very large percentage of newlyweds find themselves in the market for a puppy. But, like a baby, a puppy comes with many new responsibilities and big changes to a household and even your married relationship. Choosing the right breed is key to everyone’s happiness!

The Small Dog: The first thing to consider is the size of dog that is most likely to fit your space. A small apartment in the city is not likely to accommodate larger breeds, especially those who love to run. Thus, your living arrangements might limit your choices immediately. For those who aren’t so confined, the decision will likely be based more on personal preference. A small dog can be a wonderful addition to the home, but these little guys are also very fragile. They must be babied a bit as they are susceptible to cold, injury, and digestive problems. For those who are looking for a loving companion that adores its owner and will be playfully content indoors, a small dog can be the perfect pal.

The Active Dog: As stated above, when it comes to small homes without access to convenient outdoor areas to run, the active dog is probably not a good choice for you. However, for those with an enclosed backyard or lots of room to run, active dogs can make wonderful partners. The spaniels, labs, and retrievers of the world are often willing to become workout companions for the runner or walker. Who doesn’t need a workout buddy that won’t take no for answer?! Water-loving dogs might be the perfect fit for a couple near the ocean, lake, or pond, and for the outdoor enthusiast, a dog breed for hunting will likely be a wonderful fit.

The Big Dog: If a small dog is not the right fit and an overly active dog won’t fit your relaxed lifestyle, then it might be time to consider the largest breeds. Though they will still need outdoor time and they do require a lot of indoor space, these huge hearts are loving, loyal, and often on the lazy side – at least as they get a little older. However, do be prepared for a hyper puppy, regardless of the breed you choose. Like a child, puppies need a lot of love, a lot of care, and a lot of attention in the early years. A final note on the larger of the four-legged loves of the world — big dogs can also be major sources of drool,though, so you might want to have the ‘jowel towel’ nearby.

Whatever dog you choose, adding a 4 legged friend to your family is a wonderful part of newlywed life. Taking your time and considering your options before you take the “puppy plunge” should lead to years of love and companionship down the road. Did you get a dog right after you got married? What options did you consider or wish you’d considered? We’d love to hear from you in a comment! Get more Newlywed Advice from our experts or follow the flow on IG.

Name Change Insight Shared on Baltimore FOX 45 News!

Looking for some name change insight? MissNowMrs.com founder, Danielle Tate, was on Baltimore FOX 45 morning news last week. She shared her insights about the newlywed name change process. Check out the video segment for interesting how-to’s and how the MissNowMrs.com service can save customers over 13 hours of hassle!

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What was one of the tips shared? Danielle suggested that brides can complete their paperwork PRIOR to their wedding and then print/file their forms once they return from their honeymoon and have a marriage certificate. This gives brides a jump on the process of becoming a Mrs., and preserves precious newlywed time.

Another question was how safe the service was. MissNowMrs.com is dedicated to ensuring the safety of their customers’ information. Data is encrypted, secure servers are located out of state and best of all: all questions are optional. If a bride doesn’t feel comfortable typing in a piece of information, she can skip that question and fill it in once she prints her forms.

Still curious about the married name-change process? Check out the detailed name change information on our FAQ page to learn more!