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Looking for name change advice or some tips for newlywed life? The MissNowMrs experts have created state-specific name change articles and checklists for you. We’ve chronicled our recommendations for how to travel while changing your name AND how to handle voting during the transition.

We’ve also compiled our best guidance for how to handle difficult sister in laws, holidays as newlyweds, the ever-annoying baby questions, and much more. Why? Because, while we are name change experts, we’re also newlywed wives, moms, and sisters.

We hope our name change advice articles help smooth your transition to your new name, and a whole new phase of life. Congratulations and best wishes from the entire MissNowMrs team!

Mother’s Day Magic

We have some Mother’s Day magic up our sleeves for you! Heads up ladies….Mother’s Day is on Sunday. Planning your wedding may have brought up the good, the bad, and even the ugly in your relationship with your mother, but hopefully the day you walked down the aisle allowed you both to connect on a whole new level as you shared one of the most beautiful days in both of your lives together. If you haven’t already made a plan for Mother’s Day or chosen a gift, here are a few ideas for you.

Capture Moments – Do you have a few fantastic photos of you and your mother on your wedding day? Now is a perfect time to either frame a few for her as a gift or make a mini album.
Pamper Her – A mother’s work is never done, so give her a Red Door spa certificate to make sure she takes a well deserved break. What would make it even better would be spent with you…so consider booking a treatment together!

Memorialize Your Family – Chip in with your siblings on a gemstone representation of you all! Your mom will be blown away by this a modern necklace with each of your birthstones to remind her of her “little gems”.

Get Personal – Write your mom a letter expressing all of the love you have for her and all of your best memories together. The price of this gift may be free, but she will think it is priceless.

Whatever you choose to do to honor your mom, make sure to do just that honor her. Also, as you are now a newlywed…don’t forget your mother-in-law on Mother’s Day. She helped make your spouse the wonderful person he is, so be sure to send her a card. What are your plans for Mother’s Day this year? We’d love to hear about them!

The Premarital Plan: Talk About the Tough Stuff BEFORE Tying the Knot

Have you gone through the premarital plan yet? When it comes to marriage, there are many matters that could result in power struggles once or several times over the length of the relationship, but there are two very common reoccurring themes that come up in marital disputes.

The first has to do with the financial status of the new family unit and the second deals with the matter of time. Learning your fiancé’s take on both topics can help solidify a base for your marriage to stand upon. This post addresses a few of the questions that can be the starting point for these necessary pre-wedding conversations.

Who does the housework and grocery shopping? Many years ago, the answer to this question was obvious. Today the “little woman” isn’t necessarily in charge of the household. With both the husband and the wife taking on professional roles in this day and age, the rules of marriage have been altered. Suddenly, housekeeping and grocery shopping are eating into everyone’s free time. Because time is valuable to both of you, it is best to be up front about what will be expected from each of you, so don’t be afraid to be specific and outline the chores to be done.

What’s the ultimate income goal and who is going to handle the financial matters? Perhaps even more important than time, is money. At least this seems to be the case in marriages as financial problems are the number one cause of divorce. So, be upfront about your expectations and ask about his or hers. It is better to know in advance where each expects to be financially two-, ten -, and even fifty years down the road. Also choosing the member of your new team who is best able to make that happen, will reduce stress over the length of your marriage.

How much will our monthly bills cost us? Similarly, it is important to have a true understanding of all expenses that will come with your coming together as one. These costs may not be entirely obvious. It is safe to assume that anyone today will have some debt. He or she may also carry insurance policies (auto, life, home, etc.) that can quickly rack up. Calculating all of these expenses in advance can help to keep everyone on the same page.

What professional goals do you have and will they keep us apart often? Another matter linked to time is the professional aspirations of each spouse. It is important to know what is involved with the career that your partner wishes for. Are the commitments something that you can truly live with? He or she needs to be able to answer the same question about your goals in life.

How often do you expect to see your parents? Mine? Our friends? Finally, the other major claimant of time is the outside relationship. Whether it is parents, siblings, or friends, these outsiders will cost you and your soon-to-be spouse some of your time, but how much? Now is the best time to figure all of that out.

Have you discussed the premarital plan your fiance or spouse? If you didn’t, do you wish that you had?Please share a comment that could help our other readers.

Newlywed Easter Dress Success

Unsure of your Easter dress success? Don’t worry, we’re here to help. One of the best parts of Easter is the excuse to shop for one more Spring dress or ensemble. Can you remember how excited you used to get before Easter as a little girl? The dress, the hat/bow and of course new shoes! Whether you are a newlywed meeting your spouse’s extended family for the first time or simply going to brunch with close friends, here are a few of our favorite outfits that are festive but won’t leave you looking fussy.

Fashionably Floral – Look for a dress that has just enough flowers to be attractive, but not enough to make you look like Great Aunt Susan’s couch! Add a colorful pump and you’re ready for any Easter occasion.

Best Brunch Bet – Going to a family brunch and not sure what to wear? Shop for a dainty ship dress that can be accessorized dressy or casual (as your event calls for).

Meet the Family – Did your fiance wait until this Easter to introduce you to his extended family? Don’t stress. Look for something in a solid color, something elegant, tasteful and still very young and pretty (like you).

Easter Egg Hunt Elegance – Maintain a stylish holiday appearance AND your ability to forage for eggs with classic linen pants. Add a floral blouse or light weight sweater and you’re good to go hunt for some eggs!

Whatever your Easter plans may be, isn’t it wonderful to be a women and have a chance to dress up? Do you have any suggestions for Easter dress success? We’d love to hear from you.

Do You Need A Vacation From Your Spouse’s Job?!

What do you do when you and your spouse seem to be at each other’s throats a little more than usual? Do you find yourselves having the same annoying arguments over and over again? Lately I’ve noticed in my marriage that our reoccurring issues are stemming from one thing—his stress from work! This excessive stress has been coming home with him after leaving the office, and affecting our relationship! Work has been absolutely devouring my husband, consuming his energy, his every thought and every second of the day, so much so that even when we’re “spending time” catching up on our favorite shows on the couch, work calls continue to come in and he is still on the computer! Don’t get me wrong, I certainly appreciate his dedication and passion that he has for his job, but there comes a point where the happy median between work and pleasure needs to be a bit more… defined! In a serious effort to divert further issues and arguments, I called an intervention and demanded a vacation!

I believe there comes a point in every relationship where one, or both parties, becomes unintentionally wrapped up in one thing, and all of the remaining things in life suffer! Sooo, my solution- a romantic getaway! A nice vacation just me and the hubby (and by request- no computers!) I figured this was the only way get him away from his workload and at the same time will give us a chance to devote sole attention to one another, and spend some much-needed quality, romantic time- alone! Your marriage is a partnership, so it’s important to recognize one another’s needs and to be there to show each other support and love!

Now that we have moved out of the never-ending winter season, I want nothing more than the sand in my feet and a nice dark tan! Here are some getaway ideas and inspiration that I wanted to share with you from one of my fav’s, Travel and Leisure’s Ideas Section and here are some amazing hot-spots, rated the top destinations of 2011!

Do you and your spouse have a go-to place when you just need a romantic getaway? We would love to hear you favorite vacation spots- it always helps to spark new ideas for those in need of a getaway, so please share!

Newlywed Solutions For Juggling Family Celebrations

It’s the beginning of April…time for the panic of realizing that it’s time for juggling family celebrations. For some, the decision is easy and natural, but for most, especially newlyweds, there is a lot of room for hurt feelings and resentment. If you and your spouse are on your way to happily ever after, then both of you must face the realization that with marriage comes compromise and that will become most apparent during holiday celebrations.

Whether an Easter Sunday dinner, Passover or a giant gathering around the Thanksgiving table, holidays are often the setting for the happiest and most memorable moments of childhood. So, it makes complete sense that you’ll feel sad at having to say goodbye to the ways of your childhood in order to make room for an expanding family.

But like it or not, if you want your marriage to have a solid foundation, you will be making holiday compromises very soon. That isn’t to say that you have to bid farewell to the traditions of your family all together. The great thing about holidays is that there are enough to go around. Even if your parents and your in-laws live hundreds or thousands of miles apart, a plan can be made to ensure that some of the customs of your family are experienced even after marriage.

For those who are fortunate enough to have both sets of parents within a near vicinity, the decision making does not have to be so difficult. Even if dinners are scheduled for the same time on the same day, it is possible to dine with one family and share dessert with the other. This can become habit and the parts played can be rotated each year, so both families’ traditions can be welcomed and appreciated.

As for those who have miles separating relatives, the decision may be more difficult, but not impossible. Perhaps your spouse favors his family’s Thanksgiving traditions and you would rather hold onto the Christmastime festivities. In this case spend the first holiday with his or her parents and the second with yours. If this is not the case, then consider cycling. Thanksgiving and Easter with your parents this year and Christmas and New Years with his or hers, but next year those occasions are switched.

The most important thing to remember is that while every couple is different, almost every newlywed makes accommodations around the holidays. Find a routine that works and stick with it so they can be times of celebration, rather than repeated times of stress each year.

What solutions have you come up with to keep both your families happy but also to keep your sanity? Do you cycle, alternate or just have everyone come over to your house? Are your parents or in-laws divorced, causing even more ways to split the holidays? We’d love for you to let us know your solutions for juggling family celebrations in a comment.