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New York Maiden to Middle Name Change

New York Maiden to Middle Name Change

New York maiden to middle name change is a little tricky. State laws were not allowing brides to take their maiden names as their middle names, which caused all kinds of complications and many brides resorted to going through the lengthy and expensive legal name change process. Great news! MissNowMrs.com figured out a way to satisfy the New York points of identity requirements so you CAN change your maiden name to your middle name.

Here’s the scoop:

To change your middle name to your maiden name based on marriage, you will need to file your name-change forms in a specific order. File your Social Security form and your U.S. Passport forms first. Next, wait to receive both of those new documents back in your new name. Then you can go to the New York DMV and file for your new driver’s license. Your Social Security card and U.S. Passport with your new name will serve as the required 6 points of identification…AND since they show your maiden names as your middle name, you won’t have any issues getting your new license to match.

Don’t forget that our easy online name-change app and service helps you complete all of your name-change forms in ~30 minutes. So, you can go from Miss to Mrs. in a matter of minutes and focus on the fun of being a newlywed!

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Thanksgiving As Newlyweds: Tips For Success

Thanksgiving As Newlyweds

Ready for your first Thanksgiving as newlyweds? Millions of men and women before you have successfully hosted Thanksgiving, so why should you and your spouse be any different?  The Thanksgiving meal is feared nearly as much as it is enjoyed each year.

After all, the many side dishes that come together with the giant bird require a lot of organization and planning if they are to be prepared and served correctly.  That certainly doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t give it a try with hubby, but it does mean that you will want to create a game plan before you begin.

Deciding Who to Invite – One of the most difficult moments in every new marriage comes with deciding what should happen at the holidays.  Whose family should be visited and when?  How will the time be divided and who will be dined with?  Having a dinner in your own home can help to avoid some of those uncomfortable moments, but you will still need to formulate a guest list that will likely be based on the amount of space you have for entertaining, the existing plans of loved ones, and the distance between you and them. 

Work together to draw up the best possible list as far in advance as you can, so you can give friends and family members ample time to re-arrange schedules.  Have a fussy family or a few “difficult family members”? Consider a seating chart…so draw upon who sat by whom at your wedding and got along and arrange your table accordingly.

Planning a Menu – The great part about Thanksgiving is that most of the meal is dependent on tradition.  Unfortunately, while  is the common denominator, many families will vary substantially in the rest of their menus.  But, with some work, you can make a meal that pulls a little something special from each family’s traditions and makes everyone feel comfortable, welcome, and ultimately, full. Also, think about asking each family invited to bring a favorite side or dessert.  This potluck concept lowers your workload and allows family members to feel included in the meal.

Shopping and Cooking – There is good reason that the Thanksgiving meal is consumed only once per year.  It often requires a huge number of ingredients, a lot of space for preparation, and a great deal of time to make it happen.  Fortunately, there are two of you and that means that tasks can be divided among you to make the whole event much more manageable.  Enjoy the shopping time together, getting excited about the impending meal and work together to divvy up the cooking. 

When it comes time to create, turn on some music that you both enjoy.  Sing along, laugh together, and enjoy the special memories that are being made on your very first Thanksgiving. While one boils and mashes potatoes, another can be basting the turkey and chopping veggies for other dishes.  With two sets of hands, what might be a very chaotic experience can be very enjoyable.

Here’s to you and your first Thanksgiving as newlyweds!  Stay tuned to our newlywed blog for Thanksgiving pie recipes and ideas.

Being True to You After I Do: Maintaining Friendships

Friendship is a wonderful thing that can get a person through some of the roughest points he or she faces in life.  Friends offer the shoulder to cry on, the tissue to dry the tears, and the invitation to fun activities that promote healing will, undoubtedly, hold great meaning for the rest of that person’s life.  Unfortunately, maintaining a new marriage can often strain friendships and challenge them in ways that no one could quite expect. There are many reasons that this happens and it is a natural occurrence.  For one thing, marriage changes the way that decisions are made.  It is no longer a matter of what ‘I would like to do’ but rather a decision of what ‘we would like to do’.  Furthermore, marriage often brings added responsibilities and a new group of people to spend time with.  This doesn’t mean that a friendship ends when the words ‘I do’ are said, but that the relationship will require effort.

Scheduling – Time as a newlywed, must be split between the marriage, old friends, new friends, and family.  Often the best way to maintain friendships with hurting your marriage is to schedule visits in advance.  Whether the activities will be done as couples or just you will be attending, it is important to discuss them with your spouse to prevent calendar conflicts such as you planning to attend a girls’ happy hour on Friday but he promised that you’d both be at his mother’s dinner party.  Newlyweds need to realize that there’s more than one person making plans!

Understanding How To Handle Change – As we grow up and get married, life changes happen.  Some of those changes in direction will be pre-planned decisions and others might be unexpected.  However, all can affect relationships, including those between you and your friends.  The choice to start a family, to move, or even to change jobs can have major impact on the time you have available to spend with friends and also how your perspective aligns with theirs’. Being aware that changes will happen can make it easier to address them and even prevent them from causing issues within your friendships.

The Need for Boundaries – Though friendships are undeniably important, when you say your vows, you promise to think of your spouse first.  Defining special times, places, and events that should be reserved for just the two of you is a good way to prevent hard feelings and big fights in the future.  These boundaries will actually make it easier to maintain the friendship and balance it with the new life you have started with your spouse.
How do you maintain your friendships as a newlywed?  Have you instituted a girls night in or Skype chats to stay connected? We’d love to hear your solutions and thoughts in a comment!

Newlywed Communication: 3 Tips for Success

One of the most integral parts of any great marriage is a couple’s ability to communicate effectively with each other and respect each others (often different) opinions.  Many newlyweds  struggle to find the balance of listening and being heard in the first years of marriage. After all, living with someone and being united with them requires new levels of patience, understanding, and self-control.  When a co-worker upsets you, the disagreement is generally superficial, the boss will step in, or you can simply leave to take a breather and have an escape at home.  The same is true when arguments arise with friends or extended family members.  But, when you argue with your spouse, the rules change, so here are a few things to keep in mind:

Look for Visual Cues – Did you know that more than ninety percent of what you say does not come from your mouth?  It has been found that it is the non-verbal actions of a person that provide most of the story.  If you are failing to look at your partner when he or she is speaking, then chances are good that you are missing much of what has been said.  It is also much easier to misinterpret something that is said if you do not see the non-verbal communications associated with the words.

Actively Listen – In addition to looking at him or her during the conversation, it is very essential to demonstrate that you were, in fact, listening and hearing everything that was said.  Common phrases — such as ‘do you know what I mean?’, ‘what do you think?’, ‘am I crazy for feeling that way?’ – should not be ignored.  Rather than just nodding your approval of what your partner has said, or starting on a tirade regarding everything you disagree with, be careful to respond meaningfully to those questions.  These can be instant diffusers if handled correctly in a heated situation.

Know When to Temporarily End the Conversation – While the old saying ‘never go to bed angry’ still applies, it is unrealistic to believe that every argument throughout the life of your relationship will come to an immediate conclusion.  Communication is essential, but sometimes it is just as important to know when to walk away.  When tempers are flared to a level that distracts from hearing and understanding what is being said, then it is a good idea to take a moment to breathe. Don’t leave and stay away, but rather, take a moment apart to gather your thoughts, calm your nerves, and begin to think rationally again.  At that point, return to your spouse and try to speak at a reasonable volume about what is bothering you.

The communication foundations you lay today will affect your relationship for a lifetime, so take the time to figure out the best ways to discuss highly charged topics and deal with confronting each other in a loving way. It will pay off, I promise!  Just reading this blog post is a great step towards continuing your newlywed bliss.  What discoveries have you made about communication as a newlywed?

Fox 40 Interview: Marriage Name Change

MissNowMrs.com’s founder was interviewed about marriage name change and all of the in’s and out’s of the process last week on Sacramento FOX 40 News. She also shared some pointers for newlyweds navigating the process on their own.

What’s the inside scoop? Danielle suggested that brides discuss their name change with their spouses prior to getting married and then stay very organized when preparing for their name change. Knowing your individual state’s name-change requirements can save you hours of hassle and multiple trips to state and government offices.

With over 80,000 customers, MissNowMrs.com is an excellent resource for expert married name change information as well as online name-change services so check us out today!